Everything we did together was fun

Dating for ugly girls

Specifically, think about the transitory, troublesome nature of hotness. Or, like, not ugly, but not as pretty as some other girls I've dated.

Having done it a couple of times myself, I don't actually know whether it's worth it. We're told that the soul and the body are two different things, and that the former is much more important. She was a tremendous human being. Far from it - most of us would sooner be with an ugly person who has a good heart than a beautiful self centred vain ugly on the inside person. Beauty and the Beast, the tale of the Ugly Duckling, and so on.

The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. That's just the natural reaction.

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And it didn't bother me all the time. In fact, it is dating somebody with a slightly inconvenient superpower. Just make that decision an informed one. Being ugly can be seen as a gift as it will allow you to be liked for your personality instead of what you look like. Do with that what you will.

Again, that doesn't mean you can't make relationship decisions based on physical attractiveness. Regardless of gender, centerfold-beauty types are showered by an inordinate amount of affection. In summary, looks can be problematic, and they're not forever.

Finally uglies throughout the States are now able to get it together with one another. Rather than being gorgeous, she's cute enough. She's got a few lovely angles but also a few unlovely ones. Maybe your style gets better, but your skin doesn't. There are no clear answers here.

Personality-wise, she's someone I could see dating for a long time, but she's a bit on the heavy side and just not as pretty as I wish she was. We live in a time where we get a really unworkable, contradictory set of messages about attractiveness. When you're in bed, everything goes swimmingly, but you're not always completely enticed by her face in the mornings. Honestly at this point I don't know what to do.

Which is fine for you most of the time. Unlike, say, the decision I made with Kara, a girl I met in college. But I think your concern is totally valid. Better for both of you for you to be honest about that now than to dishonestly drag out a relationship that just won't work, wasting time both of you could be spending finding a better fit.

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